12 Years Married, Zero Arguments Won

Many years ago, a wise man sat in front of his disciples and said that there are four steps to winning an argument with your wife. Legend has it that while this wise man was speaking, his wife arrived out of nowhere, grabbed him by the hair and dragged him away. Married men have searched for the wise man across the world, but he was never seen again.

I can neither confirm nor deny those rumours.

What I can say, however, is that Sumita and I have survived 12 years together, and the secret lies in a simple phrase –Wife is Always Right (Short for WAR).

While I am not sure about the four steps of winning an argument with your wife (for those married men who are planning to ask me in DMs), I do know that there are four stages of realising that your wife is always right.

And all of them revolve around acknowledging that you are wrong.

As you tread through the ocean of life and add marriage years to your age, you realise that the sooner you accept this one eternal fact, the closer you are to eternal peace.

12 years ago, on this day, Sumita and I got hitched. As I look back, I remember so many facets of the day, and how so many things did not go according to plan. It was a fest that got the family together, with countless little stories of fun and embarrassment that still make the rounds.

Of course, it was the start of something special.

Perhaps the secret to a happy marriage is finding comfort in each other’s presence. Finding peace in that little bit of familiarity. Catching each other’s eye across a crowded room and breaking into a smile. Giving each other a safe space, like a warm bed in the winter chill, where, tucked between the sheets, you can be the person you have always wanted to be without a worry in the world.

Marriage is not just about love, but also about dealing with the hiccups, the setbacks, the problems and leaning on each other when nothing seems right.

There are probably 12 million memories made in the last 12 years, nestled in songs and verses. Some hidden in old movies and picturesque places. Others attached to dates on the calendar, tied to pictures hanging on the wall, among sunsets and sunrises. Yet the heart is hardly full, so here’s to many more ahead. More fun, more adventure, more testing times, and yes, more “yes Ma’ams.”

Happy Anniversary, Sumita. Just like that famous song by The Weepies, “Nothing Else will do, I gotta have you.”

Cheers